Dependas

 

Definition from Urban Dictionary:

Dependa

A person who is married to someone in the service who doesn’t just depend on their spouse for financial support, but pretty much relies on them for it. They start out all cute and All-American until after the wedding, then it’s like cookies, couch and coach purses. Arguing with other dependas over Facebook all day over who’s the bigger dependa. They’re generally not educated and have no goals or aspirations in life. They live their lives through their husband’s successes and think they rank and are better than “civilians” when they themselves are in face…still civilians.

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Now with that being said, I have to say I find the whole military amusing. And I would know considering I live in a military town. And sorry for anyone that I might offend but just know I speak with love in my heart. But I personally believe soldiers should not be allowed to marry until they’ve served for four years. Reason being, it costs money for no reason. It’s sad to think that so many young couples are getting married when they are just 18 and don’t even know what they want in their life. Most haven’t stepped foot in college and then they join the military for steady income, marry some poor chick and have babies. This is one of the few jobs that actually pays you more for being married. It’s silly cause the divorce rate is 50% or even more now. If a soldier stays single, they have free housing, medical and dental insurance and food all covered and taken out of their pay. All they have to do is stay single and not blow their money on dumb shit and they could pocket all the extra cash… But instead they develop with White Knight Syndrome and try and rescue these poor girls who dropped out of high school. I live around all military all of the time. All the wives are mothers who cut coupons and sell bundles, or they babysit or they are “models.” They don’t have a care or worry in the world and yet I hear them complain all the time about how little money their spouse makes. And I wonder if the pay is really that bad or if the dependa is just wasting money. Because I find it odd that so many people want to become soldiers for “horrible pay.” Cause it’s not. The only ones who don’t complain about the money are the soldiers who either aren’t married or have a college degree before they joined. See what is really sad is that today people use the military the same way civilians abuse welfare.

A student fresh out of high school who can’t get a job or hold a job will normally join the military. Or a young man who gets put on child support will join for the steady income… Pretty much they only join when they can’t make it in the civilian world, and why? Because it’s easier. If the military was that hard, then that would mean they’d be able to accomplish what they needed to in the civilian world. And that’s not to say all soldiers join for that reason because I know many that joined to make a difference and they love their job. But in this particular case I am talking about the abusers. And you can always tell who they are. I believe this is why the military is being cut the way it is, because people have just been using it for the money and not actually doing their job for their country. When I first moved here, I met a young woman who told me to marry a soldier, and when I asked her, “why” she said because I could obtain a free boob job. Now you can imagine my face as being shocked to hear that one of the reasons she loved her husband was for the possible perks of the military. It changed my view of military wives completely….

My next issue with Dependas (and this is how you know if they are a legit dependa)

I cannot stand when they are part of those Sanctimommy Wars (groups on facebook) or Mommy Wars or “enter military base here” WTF Moments… All these groups are filled with the nastiest of women. Horrible women who bully and abuse people over the internet and make fun of people as a game. The most childish behavior of young women anywhere. And I talk about it here cause I want it to be known for everyone so that way we can stop. These are the wives of soldiers. I’m sure the US would think of their soldiers as having high standards and treating all people with respect and love. And yet their wives are picking on children and parents alike. It really does need to end.

So for all the non working, no car owning, pregnant full time student, cosmetologist couponing model depandas out there just know I am calling you out. You don’t deserve to be married.